comments: Okay, well I was really into this one particular guy and he really cared about me. However I was still associating with other males. I even had sex behind his back four times of which he found out about two. I
feel extremely awful, and it's sad because he probably wants nothing to do with me ever again. I have cleared out my little black book, (I discarded all unwanted numbers from the guys I have met and I have also told the others who call me, not to any more) I have completely done my social life over for it is definitely in a rut.
I no longer want sex to be an issue in my future relationships. I really want to be back with the guy but I don't think he wants me back. I know my question isn't completely about sex, but do you think you can help me?

Dear Ashley,
I'm not sure if I can help you, but I can try to give you something to think about: Sex is neither a tool nor a weapon, it is something one shares with another. It is not something you give or take, it is an energy that is created between two people that should cement a relationship rather than cause an abyss of distrust. If you have someone special in your life, it doesn't matter how many other males you associate with, as long as you are secure in your understanding of where your priorities lie.
Love,
Pink Jynx

comments:
I'VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT CHEATING ON MY HUSBAND. WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3yrs. AND I FIND OUR RELATIONSHIP TO BE QUITE BORING. THE SEX SUCKS, HE INTO PLEASING HIMSELF ONLY, AND COULD CARE LESS IF I GET OFF. I USUALLY MASTURBATE DAILY, BECAUSE IT'S THE ONLY WAY I CAN GET SATISFACTION. I'VE ACTUALLY THOUGHT ABOUT MORE OF AN AFFAIR WITH A WOMAN THAN A MAN. WE HAVE 2 CHILDREN TOGETHER, SO IF I ACT UPON THIS I'M AFRAID I'LL LOSE EVERYTHING I DO LOVE. CAN YOU SUGGEST ANYTHING I CAN DO. I'VE TRIED ALL THE KINKY STUFF AND HE'S NOT INTO FREAKY SEX. ALL HE WANTS TO DO IS BUST HIS NUT AND THAT'S IT. I WONDER IF HE'S NOT ATTRACTED TO ME ANYMORE. I KNOW I'M NOT UGLY, I HAVE GUYS TELL ME ALL THE TIME HOW PRETTY I AM, AND I COULD BE THE NEXT PAM ANDERSON (I'm not stuck on myself, but I do get alot of attention from other men) BUT THE ATTENTION I WANT IS FROM MY HUSBAND. ANY ADVISE FOR ME:)

Shannon Dearest,
You are in a tough situation! You strike me as someone with a serious sex drive, yet your hubby seems to be quite sedate in that department. I understand that messing with your stable life may not be your favorite plan, but, I can tell you that even if you do absolutely NOTHING to rock the boat, your life/sexlife will definitely not be boring for long. I am not giving you any advice, notice, just my prediction.
Keep me updated.
Pink

comments: My boyfriend likes me to talk about another woman when we have sex. He also likes to hear about me turning on other guys. Is this normal?

Dear Dlove,
Your boyfriend wants to live vicariously through you. Now that you know this, and the longer you continue to deal with it, the more NORMAL it will become for you.
Love,
Pink

comments: When my boyfriend and I have sex why is it that he reaches an orgasm before I do?

Dear Niki,
Why?  Because he is a selfish lover, only concerned about himself.
Pink

comments: I recently had my first sexual encounter with a member of the same sex. Was that an unusual thing for someone who is married? And is it wrong to give him head?

Dear Gazi,
It is not all that unusual, and there is nothing wrong with giving him head. The fact that you are married, however, deserves some thought, especially if you enjoyed this particular encounter.
Luck,
Pink

comments: How can I satisfy a girl completely. How can I increase my stamina?

Eat your oatmeal. Work out at the gym.
Enjoy!
Pink

comments:
Well, my boyfriend and I separated lately because he says that he can't trust me. We still spend a lot of time together because we both still have strong feeling for each other. I still want to have sex with him, but I think that it isn't the right thing to do. Please give me your advice on what I should do?

Dear Confused,
Why is it that he can't trust you? Did something happen that broke his trust in you?
I am confused as well, but I would definitely not have sex with anyone who doesn't trust me.
Keep the faith in yourself.
Pink

ERIC sent the following;
sign: Libra -
age: 18-24
sex: Male

comments: What to do when you're in love with 2 girls?

Eric,
Introduce them to each other, if they fall in love with each other as well, you have it made. If they don't, well, then you are out of luck.
Love
Pink

comments: I am a father of three beautiful female step children all of which are at the development stage. My problem is even though I have no desire to have sex with them I find myself aroused by them with the littlest of contact. Does this mean that I really do want more or that I'm just sick pervert?

TMac,
If you really do want more, you're a sick pervert, and if you're just a sick pervert, then you're STILL a sick pervert!
See a therapist, QUICK.
Pink Jynx

comments: If I have sex 3 times a day seven days a week would you consider me to be a ho just because I want to sleep around?

Djon,
What do you care if I consider you a Ho or not. What is more important is how You consider YOURSELF.
Be you, babe!
Pink

comments: Hello sex goddess,
I have seen what you have done for other people with crisis and am impressed. My 1.25 yr. girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago. Then she called and told me she screwed her friend. I don't care about that; she did have sex with a kid at a party once while we were going out and that hurt. I think she may be addicted to sex now (we took each other's virginity), and wonder if I should feel guilty for turning her into a hootchie. thanks, miss. -Pete

Get over it Pete,
You did not turn her into a hootchie, Life goes on, You live and you learn and you grow, THAT'S ALL.
Peace,
Pink

comments: DOES CONDOMS REDUCE THE PLEASURE OF ACT?   I'D LIKE TO TRY WITHOUT IT.

Jasmyn Honey,
If you consider the horror of contracting a variety of sexually transmitted diseases, some of which may be incurable, most of which are certainly painful.....I'd say, NOT using a condom can SERIOUSLY inhibit if not OBLITERATE the pleasure factor.
Pink Jynx

Saleh sent the following;
sign: Scorpio -
age: 18-24
sex: Male

comments:
I am not allowed to have a girlfriend in my hometown because of "Old Traditios", unless I get married and I don't want to. I spent some of my life with lots of girlfriends, somewhere else, and I cannot get over it.
What should I do?

Dear Saleh,
I think it is time for you to move to another town, where it is okay for you to be yourself.
Luck,
Pink

comments: My girlfriend likes to have sex and is addicted to it. She goes to my office during work and she wants to do it. The first times it was okay, but now its a everyday thing. What can I do?

Adam,
Tell your boss. This way either she will dump you out of embarrassment, or you'll get fired. Problem solved, no more sex in the office.
Pink

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